Personal experiences are some of the best research materials a writer has at disposal. Whether life’s been great or full of hell, using that experience makes the way you tell a story all your own.
No one else has been in your shoes, just like there are no other Charles Dickens, Scott Fitzgeralds or Mary Shelleys. Your perspective on life is unique to you. So, make the most of it.
Write romance or fantasy or drama, no matter how wild, or dreary. It does not matter if your narration is down to earth or larger than life, as long as your story connects with readers because the emotion and its purpose are real.
Ernest Hemingway once said,
“All good books are alike in that they are truer than if they really happened and after you are finished reading one you will feel that it all happened to you and afterwards it all belongs to you: the good and the bad, the ecstasy, the remorse and sorrow, the people and the places and how the weather was. If you can get so that you can give that to people, then you are a writer.”
Write with emotion and purpose. The tragedy, horror, glory and ruin of your characters comes from your reality. By observing, interacting, and opining about everyone and everything you see, hear, and remember, you have more than enough paint for your canvas.